Sass, hon people here are right. It hurts. That is the simple fact and there is nothing that any dr. or friend can do about it. You have to take charge. I agree with LT and say let it wash. I pretend to 'put things into balloons and watch them float away in a beautiful blue sky' That is my symbalistic ritual. It works very well but once in a great while I slip. We are made to feel emotions to rejoice and to grieve and to learn new methods to cope with our hurts are the best that we can do.
I especially like the comment above that said that it is like being angry at a retarded child. It is. Their thoughts and emotions are 'second hand' They have been stunted. You will learn to laugh and celebrate and yes, think your own thoughts. Best of all you will have your own opinions and views!!! They can never have those. Feel pity for them, I know that I do. Mere automatons.
hugs
cab